NATURAL BEAUTY: THE ART OF PATIENCE + THE CONNECTION TO SKIN
SKIN AND PATIENCE
HARD TO PRACTICE, VITAL TO HEAL
PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE
Beautiful in theory, but hard to practice, and integrate. Similar to what I spoke about on Monday, as when we're trying to heal and do a million things at once when it comes to our body and mind, we're usually practicing impatience. Which is all so, so natural.
It's not your fault, we've been raised and taught that instant gratification is the way to life. From the birth of fast food (it's still a new phenomenon), inputing information - Hi Dr. Google - and getting an instant reply / diagnosis / log of forums, information, websites & links, to the beauty industry that continually filters in messages that guarantee visible results in just a few short weeks. This stuff has been ingrained in us since birth! Let's roll it back even further, to a very biological / physical necessity, but instant gratification non-the-less, which happens with most food and beverage products. We're hungry, our mother gives us her breast, we feed, and voila! We're happy. We don't wait for it, if we do we scream + cry like crazy, and hence it's ours when we want it and the volume of how much we want.
I always like to stress that it's not your fault that we behave in these conditioned patterns, and habits. It's what we know, it's been reinforced thousands of times, and we gain pleasure from viewing or experience said desired outcome of so called gratification.
Conversely, patience doesn't provide such instant results, hits of dopamine / oxytocin (feel good hormones), pleasure or gratification. Patience is hard, it takes work, and to really see results time has to pass, sometimes weeks, months and in my case a decade. We can practice patience but it's usually not natural, as it takes work. We're humans who were built to resist change, stay in wells of comfort, and are naturally / historically built for pessimistic reactions and states of mind, because it helps us do one thing, survive. So I hear you, patience is hard, it's not fun most of the time, and it takes work.
Yet if we want sustainable, life-long, and enriching results Patience needs to be practiced, nourished, and integrated into Life, not just your healing journey, whether it's healing your skin, depression, connecting with your life partner, finding your perfect apartment / house, waiting to get a pet, or a burn that you got from taking cauliflower out of the oven (Me!).
Patience is one of your keys to healing, not just your skin, but anything.
I can honestly say that patience is something I've practiced, welcomed and have actually found quite rewarding, and insanely beautiful. It's something I've learned through healing my body naturally, and holistically, finding (manifesting) my now fiancé, and building my practice + business, which started in 2013, but really in 2008 when I started fashion blogging! This year will mark my decade long journey in blogging + being online. I was a OG fashion blogger (leeselooks), which is crazy to reflect on.
Back to patience. Was it or is it easy for me? Not really. Maybe it comes a little more naturally to me as I'm more introverted / inwards, but it still wasn't easy for me, not in the slightest. I had V low points that lasted for years, never doubting the fact that I would heal, and succeed in brining my purpose to life, but I still had to trudge through the waters of patience as I knew if I was to heal, it was vital to my success. Nothing fell into my lap, my skin took years to heal, my lyme disease over a decade, finding my soon-to-be husband took over five years of being consciously single, with no dates, zero. Not even a kiss! As I knew I had so much internal work to do, to working steadily to build my practice since 2013, working part-time jobs, full-time jobs, seeing clients in the evenings, on weekends, and blogging whenever I had time, and space.
I had to work to practice patience, to sit in the dark moments, to go through it (the only way) and not around it (won't be sustainable).
When I was healing with and from my lyme disease I really didn't have a choice as it's what the Universe was calling me to do, it was part of my journey, and I believe it's why I'm able to do what I do today. I know people see my skin, and think that I'm lucky, or that I just have nice skin, which is not the case. It's been a long, long, long road to get to where I am today. I struggled with acne in my teens, and when I was living in NYC, at the height of my mysterious illness ( I didn't know it was Lymes yet), my skin was at its worst. I was not only losing my hair in clumps, but my skin was breaking out in cystic bumps, pustules, terrible pigmentation, and just breakouts galore. Every morning I would wake up with a new breakout, I picked, and even when I didnt pick or pop I was left with red pigmentation that was photosensitive and lasted for months. The summer of 16' hit and I was still experiencing hormonal breakouts, hormonal imbalance, and still patiently working at repairing my body, nourishing it, and learning it from the inside out. To say it's been a journey would be an understatement. There were so many moments that I hoped and prayed that a miracle product existed that would clear my acne, or that my skin would just clear up in a few months, if that would of happened though I never would of healed sustainable, and ultimately learned the art of patience. It's something that I speak with all my clients about. Without patience, it's a short-term + short-lived gain, at the expense of a life-long and sustainable win. Patience only breeds greatness. No great invention was met with instant success, just like no healing journey was met without patience, time, and the wonder of going through it, and not around it. I think of this quote often, for without Edison's patience he wouldn't have discovered the light bulb.
“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”
― Thomas A. Edison
I always like to refer back to this example as it's always a beautiful visual. We all love to relish in the beauty of butterflies, they are majestical, fly with ease, and elicit a sense of lightness and grace. Yet we often forget, or block out the vision that this butterfly was once a caterpillar that was squiggling across your pavement, that you may or may not have stepped on when you were little. Who then proceeded into a cocoon stage ( Aka your healing + patience which sometimes lasts years), to then flourish, develop and nurture itself to transform into the butterfly that it always was. The caterpillar and butterfly are one of the same, the only difference is what our visual eye sees and believes, and all the hard work we don't see pre-conception of that caterpillar to its days fluttering around as a beautiful butterfly.
The caterpillar is the butterfly, and the butterfly is the caterpillar. Just as you will always be You, with or without a symptom (i.e) acne, your internal doesn't shift, but the journey, healing, and patience is where the magic lies. It's what will take you from the caterpillar, into your cocoon (healing), into your most authentic + radiant being, from the inside out (butterfly). For without patience, there is no beauty in the journey. This is where the growth, evolution, and You stories are birthed... Relish in patience, and be patient with the work / investments you have to make, to get the results you so desire.
1. Do you consider yourself a patience person?
2. Are you forgiving and patient of others - not yourself?
3. Where does your impatience stem from?
If you're looking to delve deeper into your body, mind and soul, while using nutrition, food as medicine, reprogramming your mindset, advisory into your true innate self, and to take your healing to the next level, I would love to be there for you. Let's connect.