LIFESTYLE: WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU'RE STUCK IN LIFE
Stop wasting time and start living life . . .
“Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that’s the stuff life is made of.” ―Benjamin Franklin
When I look back at my years of being 'ill' I had no choice but to sit back, and honestly I feel like I'm still there (mentally). Physically no, because I am gaining momentum, I have drive, I'm not afraid to give it my all, my passion fuels each word and action, and I WANT it! But mentally I still feel a bit stuck. It's fear. It's doubt. It's worrying about having enough $$$ to pursue my dreams (book, online consulting, making my brand a business...).
What to do? What is standing in your way? How can WE overcome this together? Well I thought + meditated on this and came up with some practical ways + advice // Hope this helps if you are feeling stuck in A N Y T H I N G!
Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people. – Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together. Go for long walks. Indulge in great conversations. Count your blessings. Let go for a little while and just BE together. My favorite moments are long coffee dates, endless conversations, sunday sleep ins and cuddling, reading the paper with a good organic coffee and just being.
Compulsive busyness. – Schedule time every day to NOT be busy. Have dedicated downtime – clear points in the day to reflect, rest, and recharge. Don’t fool yourself; you’re not so busy that you can’t afford a few minutes of sanity! We all need + deserve this. If we continue on this path, we run the risk of exhaustion and adrenal fatigue.
Negative thinking about your current situation. – Life is like a mirror; we get the best results when we SMILE! So talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there.
The needless drama around you. – Be wise enough to walk away from the nonsense around you. Focus on the positives, and soon the negatives will be harder to see.
The desire for everything you don’t have. – No, you won’t always get exactly what you want, but remember this: There are lots of people who will never have what you have RIGHT now. Simple act - just be grateful! Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they already have.
Comparing yourself to everyone else. – Social comparison is the thief of happiness! You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything.
Thinking about who you were or what you had in the past. – This was / is a huge part of my healing! I'm NOT Lymes Disease, and who I was in the past is not me today. My body does not have a hospitable environment for anything nasty to grow and thrive. It's a garden of green. You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always growing (cells are constantly changing & healing). Experiences don’t stop. That’s life.
Worrying about the mistakes you’ve made. – It’s OK if you mess up; that’s how you get wiser. Give yourself a break. Don’t give up. Great things take time, and you’re getting there. Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses.
Worrying about what everyone thinks and says about you. – Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal. Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them. You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around! I don't soak in anybodies negativity. It is their choice to be mad, angry, frustrated, and I choose happiness.
Self-deception. – Your life will improve only when you take small chances. And the first and most difficult chance you can take is to be HONEST with yourself! If you can't be honest with yourself, who will??
A life path that doesn’t feel right. – Life is to be enjoyed, not endured. When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it PAYS! Passion fuels success. Success in life is for those who are excited about where they are going.
Everyone else’s definition of success and happiness. – You simply can’t base your idea of success and happiness on other people’s opinions and expectations. Period.
Trying to impress everyone. – ONE of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that’s perfectly OK! No matter how you live, someone will be disappointed. So just live your truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end.
All the fears holding you back. – Fear is a feeling, not a fact! I'm still learning this. The best way to gain strength and self-confidence is to do what you’re afraid to do. Dare to change and grow. In the end, there is only one thing that makes a dream completely impossible to achieve: Lack of action based on the fear of failure. Just writing this is like looking in the mirror, and telling myself what I tell others, but which I NEED to hear myself!
Doubting and second-guessing yourself. – When in doubt just take the next small step. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life.
Thinking the perfect time will come. – You can’t always wait for the perfect moment. Sometimes you must dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been! When in doubt choose JOY!
Close-minded judgments. – Open your mind before you open your mouth. Don’t hate what you don’t know. The mind is like a parachute, it doesn’t work when it’s closed. Judgement gets us nowhere! We are ALL different. The only thing to do is LOVE & BE THE CHANGE.
Other people’s mistakes and oversights. – Today, be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights. Sometimes good people make bad choices. It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it simply means they are human. We all have brains and beating hearts, we are human. Don't put yourself on a pedestal.
Resentment. – Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance. It’s about knowing that resentment is not on the path to happiness. Remember, you don’t forgive people because you’re weak. You forgive them because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes. By not forgiving people you are ONLY hurting yourself!
Any hateful thoughts at all. – Set an example. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because YOU are! Make kindness a daily ritual; it’s what makes life happier and more fulfilling in the long run.
Regrets of any kind. – You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do. Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret. Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not. Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened. Leave the unchangeable past behind you as you give yourself to the present moment.
Every point in time other than right now. – Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress too much about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Do your best to live NOW and make this moment worth living! Because it's ALL we have.
Think about these this weekend? What thoughts, actions, fears, physical manifestations / symptoms are holding you back from TRULY living your soul powered life?
Happy Saturday All!
love & light