NO REGRETS. EVER.
“If only…” These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases ever spoken... IF ONLY I would of done that, said that, gone there, taken that opportunity, stayed in that relationship . . . REGRET. To me that is one of the scariest things on the planet and ALL of my life choices up to this point, have avoided this one word, because I've made the choice to do so. Society forces us to believe that we H A V E to fit into this perfect little box. Have 'this' (whatever that IS!) by a certain age, get married and have children before your 30, and the list goes on. . . but what about living with that IF ONLY phrase day in and day out? To me that is a million times scarier than going against the grain. EVERYONE on this planet is beautiful, unique and deserving of a full life, and in no way do I want you to think or regret choices you've made up to this point. BUT moving forward I want you to T H I N K. Not just move through life and its motions, because you're riding the wave of society . . . I want you to listen to YOUR heart + soul and ride its wave.
Here are a few things that I believe ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them in verrrry simple ways. NEVER forget YOU are in control of your life.
Wearing a mask to impress others – If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who YOU really are. ONLY YOU know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to inspire people, because NO ONE IS. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections, because imperfections are the most beautiful thing to me. . .
Letting someone else create your dreams for you – The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? GOOD!!! It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others (I can definitely relate to this!) but this is OK, follow the beat of your own heart.
Keeping negative company – This is crucial in creating the life you want! When you're surrounded by negativity you BECOME it. Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you, because it is contagious. Don’t let them get to you. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
Being selfish and egotistical. – A life filled with LOVING gestures/deeds/words is the best tombstone (sorry for sounding morbid, but it's TRUE!). WHAT do you want to be remembered by? Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone.
"What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains."
Avoiding change and growth. – You MUST let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. BE + LIVE in the moment. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success.
Giving up when the going gets tough. – There are NO failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. LEARN from it, and move on. EVERYTHING that happens in your life isn't a mistake. For me this was seeing Lymes disease as one of the BIGGEST blessings of my life! It is. What I've learnt, discovered + shared with others has changed my life. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. It’s a process, a JOURNEY, that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.
Trying to micromanage every little thing. – Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. TAKE A DEEP BREATH. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots. . . TRUST this. Believe it and embody it.
Settling for less than you deserve. – NEVER settle. Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve! This has been a theme for me these past 6 years. . . Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Don't be afraid to get knocked down. Fear will only cripple you.
Waiting until tomorrow. – The trouble is, we ALWAYS think you have more time than we do. BUT one day we will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things we've always wanted to do. . . . START now. There will NEVER be the perfect time to do so!
Being lazy, wishy-washy + negative – The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something. So stop daydreaming and start DOING. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Take full responsibility for your life. 100% RESPONSIBILITY for your OWN life. You are loved, important and needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. The Someday is NOW; the somebody the world needs is YOU.
SO as another month comes to an end (FEBRUARY what happened to you!), I hope you will think about all of this . . . there will NEVER be the perfect time for ANYTHING. Life happens. DON'T let it pass you by, because as you know it's flying by already. EMBRACE it, make choices for YOURSELF, nurture others + start DOING. THE world needs your beauty, believe it and live it.
love & light
- xo Lisa